Grrrrr!
We always eat Sunday dinner at MIL's house. Tonight, I was in the kitchen loading the dishwasher when I hear BIL telling Evan to do something. I couldn't quite hear what he said. But then I hear Evan respond with something like, "How do you like that, Fatso? You're a fat boy." This was said to an adult uncle!! I couldn't get in there fast since my hands were gross but his uncle just laughed it off and sent him on his way. Not knowing I was in hearing range, he then muttered, "Those kids really need to go to public school."
WHAT???? I was mad. First, I was mad at Evan for acting like that but I was even madder at BIL. I admit Evan was being very hurtful and quite a huge brat. He was punished. But why is this the fault of homeschooling? First of all, Evan isn't school age yet so he wouldn't even be in public school until next year. Secondly, if he had been public schooled, he probably would have called him something way worse than, "Fatso." But I refrained from confronting BIL, who, by the way, is quite portly.
Stand and Wait
9 years ago
7 comments:
Mary,
That totally stinks. Kids just say stuff sometimes, and it didn't sound like your son was trying to be mean. Your BIL was totally unfair, too. Honestly, as a grown-up, you can ***SO*** NOT take kids' comments directly to heart. Your son was blunt, but hey your BIL is fat. Kids don't know too much about niceties. Sure, it's our job to teach them not to be so blunt, but the BIL's comment was even ruder. Shame on him. He should know better.
((((HUGS))))
Oh, and your comment on my blog? LOL Here's my reply (I posted there, but I wasn't sure if you'd read it):
Mary,
I used to live in the Appalachian Mountains, too! ROFL I'm referring to the deeper parts of it. We heard a missionary talk about it this school set up there for kids who have a hard time. Where I lived, we were totally regular folks, but we had some kids that did come from some of the more forgotten, poorer places. Those kids needed some serious help, poor little ones. I wasn't referring to 98% of normal appalachian areas. I wasn't totally being a goof! LOL
Maria, who actually is listening to Appalachian Anthology on her iPod. How weird is that? LOL
Oh man! Just chalk it up to people attacking the one thing about you that's different than everyone else - you know, the kind of skills that they teach in public school. Weren't you also the one who was labeled as a religious zealot by a SIL or something because you didn't want your boys to believe in the Easter Bunny or something dumb like that? Boy girl, you better start conforming! ;)
{HUGS}
LOL, I can just see the smoke coming from your ears! You know. "laughing it off and sending him on his way" is exactly what teaches him to do it again. Of course had he tried to discipline him... I don't even want to think about you trying to dig a hole as big as that particular BIL.
I way wouldve opened my big mouth and probly stuck my foot in it. Something like, "I can hear you." followed by all the arguments you so eloquently stated. But you did exactly the right thing. Way to take the high road! I'm proud of you.
I wanna know what he had asked E to do. Probly get him some more french fries. @@
Yikes- that sucks- but like it has been said- kids do say things- usually quite the way they see them and if they *hear* something somewhere- be it school, the grocery store, tv whatever, they usually will try it out somewhere to see if it *works* for them. he came across it somewhere where and the sayer didn't get punished or was talking tongue in cheek or sarcastically and that part waws over his head- maybe it got laughs. Who knows, but boy I feel your anger!
I've come a long way. I just erased everything I wrote. As if anything even needs to be said. (ha ha)
Perhaps all of the behavior doesn't need to be corrected. Perhaps only tact needs to be taught. We wouldn't want him to lie now would we? LOL
Ah blaming it on homeschooling was just easy for him. Easy to blame what you don't understand!
Way to go Crystal! In my original comment I had called the BIL by name, semi-hoping he might google his own name and would see that people realize what a jerk he was/is. But I erased that part. We're all being so good.
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